By Ayo Dada
Johnson moved to the United States with his wife after he won the American visa lottery in 2009. Things turned around for him as he secured a well paid job in Tennessee while his wife also got a good job as a Nurse.
4 years later, God blessed them with a baby and they quickly arranged a visa for Johnson’s mother to come to America and help out with their newborn. The baby is 8 years old now and the ‘babysitter’ is yet to return to her husband.
Johnson’s dad was forced by circumstances to marry a 32 year old lady after waiting endlessly for his wife to return from the US. The poor man in his 60s, became a polygamist by force, being made to rear another set of children from his new wife who wanted her own children.
The man said and I quote “sending my wife to the US for babysitting was a grave mistake I will never forget, the decision took a downturn on my life. I will never forgive Johnson for taking my wife from me while he enjoys his”
There are countless dads suffering like Johnson’s dad.
All in the name of traveling for babysitting, wives have abandoned their husbands, intentionally or not, turning these older men into bachelors. They eat outside, are forced to marry or date other women because of loneliness and, or, lack of companionship. Many who do not want to commit to another relationship sleep around to satisfy their sexual urge, and, or because of the vacuum and emptiness the absence of their wives have brought into their lives.
Before anyone invite their mother to help with their children, think about their husband. It is a sin against God and mankind to separate what God had joined together.
Remember our mothers were our fathers’ wives before we were born and while we were growing up, they were all they had when we left home for school and for good.
Their midlife to old age is their time to relax and enjoy each other, and the fruits of their labor, they are the time when they should be each other’s companions and soul mates, doing everything together, and not a time to be spent by themselves.
The irony is, even our mothers are being denied all these too, they may just not be as lonely.
We should make sure that in meeting our needs, our parents needs are considered and met too. We must support them during the twilights of their lives and must be aware and careful not to break their homes, as many of our parents’ marriages have also ended up in divorces for this reason.
We need to remember that, one day, it will be our turn to step into that grandpa’s shoes; what goes around must surely come around.
We must stop taking another man’s wife away from him all in the name of babysitting, as soon as our wives are strong enough to take care of our babies, we have to ensure that our mums return to their husbands. We can’t deprive our dads of the pleasure of togetherness while we enjoy ours, we should never do that to our parents.
This piece may sound trivial and unpopular to some, but, it is one of the leading pains our grandpas go through.
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